Who Are You, Really?

A blog about taking off the masks, trusting your gut, and realizing you’re not “too kind”—you’re just early.

Let’s start with a number that’ll make your stomach flip:
More than 70% of people say they don’t really know who they are. That’s not a typo. That’s a lot of us wandering around with business cards, resumes, Instagram bios… and no real clue what’s going on underneath.

And you know what? I get it.

For years, I wore my kindness like armor—until someone told me it was a weakness. “You’re too kind.”
And then: “You’re too young.”
(At this rate, I was just trying not to be too breathing.)

I started confusing who I was with who I thought I should be. It was like showing up to your own life in someone else’s clothes—smiling, nodding, crushing your to-do list, but feeling weirdly disconnected the whole time.

Here’s the thing they don’t tell you about masks: they don’t just hide you from others. They hide you from you.

Kindness isn’t weakness—it’s clarity.

When someone calls you “too kind,” what they’re often saying is, “Your values make me uncomfortable.” When someone says “too young,” they’re just naming your timeline, not your truth.

It took me a while (and some quiet walks, deep breathing, and probably a few ragey journal entries) to realize:
I wasn’t too kind. I was clear.
I wasn’t too young. I was just early.

Authenticity isn’t a branding strategy. It’s not about posting your breakfast with a caption about being “real.” It’s about slowing down enough to feel the difference between who you’ve been trying to be… and who you’ve actually been all along.

“When you get quiet and observe what feels real to you, your gut will tell you. You just have to be brave enough to listen.”

Respecting Other People's “Why” and “What”

The best part about learning to trust your own gut? You stop judging other people’s. You start seeing their “whys” and “whats” with curiosity instead of comparison. You stop assuming your way is the only way. And that, ironically, makes you even more you.

Because when we take off the masks, we create space for others to do the same.

So, who are you?

No, seriously. WHO ARE YOU? Not your LinkedIn title. Not the version of you that plays well in meetings. What feels real in your gut right now? What’s quietly asking to be heard?

You may not have the full answer today—and that’s okay. But you do have the question. And that’s where authenticity begins.