Problem vs. Solution Thinking: You’re Not a Victim…You’re the Answer

We don’t build self-worth by avoiding hard things—we build it by facing them. Living in the solution means stepping out of the victim mindset and into radical ownership. It’s not about pretending everything’s fine; it’s about saying, “This is hard, but I’m still choosing to move.” That choice, repeated over time, becomes a quiet kind of power. As Brené Brown puts it, “You can choose courage or you can choose comfort. You cannot have both.” The reward isn’t instant—but it’s real. You do the hard thing, and afterward, you trust yourself more. That’s the kind of growth that sticks.